Conflicts… Love and Sulking 16 Mar 2020 One of the most exciting aspects of the early days of a relationship can be the sense that a lover understands us without us needing to speak too much. With…
Conflicts… Why We (Sometimes) Hope the People We Love Might Die 11 Mar 202011 Mar 2020 It feels very shameful – horrifying – to admit but there are times when we may find ourselves daydreaming about a terrible thing happening to someone close to us. Deep…
Breaking up and heart break… Why Did They Leave Us? 13 Jan 2020 They’ve gone – and what we need most of all to understand is why? What is striking is that, despite what friends and well-meaning acquaintances tell us, we already know.…
Compatibility… The Real Reason Why Couples Break Up 12 Jan 202012 Jan 2020 When people try to account for why couples break up, the emphasis typically falls on the idea of difference: a disorganised creative type was up against a highly managerial ordered…
Breaking up and heart break… What About the Children When Divorce is on the Cards? 11 Jan 202011 Jan 2020 For most of human history, people didn’t stay in relationships for love. They stayed in them in order to protect their assets, ensure their status, pool their resources, synchronise farming…
Conflicts… How To Have Fewer Bitter Arguments in Love? 11 Jan 202011 Jan 2020 There are couples that seem never to argue. Their relationships are marked by enormous outward politeness; they say thank you a lot; they make each other cups of tea; they…
Breaking up and heart break… Are My Expectations Too High? 10 Jan 2020 When we contemplate leaving a relationship, it is usually because – in the privacy of our hearts – we harbour expectations of being able to meet another, and in key…
Conflicts… How to Argue in Relationships? 10 Jan 2020 Arguments in relationships are typically so regrettable and often so bitter, it’s natural to hope we might – with greater maturity – overcome them once and for all. But given…